The Use of Networking (01)
We will see that several people act just as natural as they are. When they are placed in a room which is full of strangers, they will walk and waltz around showing that they are in a total confidence, full of smiles and small talk, while doing right things as they consider. The strangers to whom they talk apparently look happy yet alert, look pleased being there. Don’t we just envy on them? They apparently make those entire things look easy and simple, don’t they? Could we?
However, most of us fear for networking approach style in any events of formal business. We still have hesitation to approach those strangers, moreover, we have nothing to say; have no idea to break the ice. When we find something to strike up the conversation, then what will we do to keep the conversation running? There must be embarrassing quietness, and we will always consider it as a complete disaster! No need to image what happens next, just think of walking away from them or continue in more rigid situation such as asking others like, “ You’ve found us fine (Now What?!)”. They have nothing to do just silently and clumsily nod. That would surely be embarrassment for both sides; the strangers wish they should not have come there; they just can’t wait to get rid of there!
The entire effort of friendly approach at that time is completely destroyed. We end up performing impression as we intended and turn it in the opposite. Yet we of course could not avoid doing as such just because those strangers make you feel inconvenient. We are now parts of modern life so that we should accept things that we are not the only one who encounter things like these uncomfortably and endeavor ourselves the best we could do. We might never be the belle of the ball, yet we could do some kind of businesslike jobs and let our guests feel glad to have come there.
Then, what on earth are those events apparently awkward? That could probably be because we are insisted on an unnatural situation where we are not familiar or ready with. Nevertheless, just keep in mind that the whole things considered as disaster as above mentioned are neither business nor really social. We are just accidentally coming into a ‘no man’s land’. There is no need to consider it serious matter.
However, most of us fear for networking approach style in any events of formal business. We still have hesitation to approach those strangers, moreover, we have nothing to say; have no idea to break the ice. When we find something to strike up the conversation, then what will we do to keep the conversation running? There must be embarrassing quietness, and we will always consider it as a complete disaster! No need to image what happens next, just think of walking away from them or continue in more rigid situation such as asking others like, “ You’ve found us fine (Now What?!)”. They have nothing to do just silently and clumsily nod. That would surely be embarrassment for both sides; the strangers wish they should not have come there; they just can’t wait to get rid of there!
The entire effort of friendly approach at that time is completely destroyed. We end up performing impression as we intended and turn it in the opposite. Yet we of course could not avoid doing as such just because those strangers make you feel inconvenient. We are now parts of modern life so that we should accept things that we are not the only one who encounter things like these uncomfortably and endeavor ourselves the best we could do. We might never be the belle of the ball, yet we could do some kind of businesslike jobs and let our guests feel glad to have come there.
Then, what on earth are those events apparently awkward? That could probably be because we are insisted on an unnatural situation where we are not familiar or ready with. Nevertheless, just keep in mind that the whole things considered as disaster as above mentioned are neither business nor really social. We are just accidentally coming into a ‘no man’s land’. There is no need to consider it serious matter.
Great advice. I think the most important here is to keep the golden mean – something between strict business style and friendly close networking.
In any case everything becomes easy with experience.